I get lots of questions on masturbati0n most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially v!rgins. Guys also masturbate.
There is no debate on that. I’m not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.
S*xual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear says about s*x.
Masturbati0n is fondling your gen!tals consistently to achieve org@sm. Ladies may stroke their cl!toris while guys rub, massage or caress their pen!s. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbati0n is. Some ladies especially non-v!rgins use candles, banana, cucumber, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a penis and do solo s*x (having s*x by yourself).
From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for s*x. It’s a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying s*x in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling horny for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get worked up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven’t committed any sin.
So what then do you do when you get hot and h0rny? Have s*x? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and pleasure through solo s*x while claiming virginity at the seame time.
*Masturbati0n is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:
1. Masturabati0n is not done in isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having s*x with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL F0RNICAT!ON
2. For ladies, while insert!ng all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your gen!tals and womb.
. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had s*x with man except objects during your solo s*x.
3. You kill your ability to enjoy s*x in future. Millions of women don’t enjoy s*x in marriage which leads to s*xual frustration, adultery, lesb!anism and fem!nism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won’t be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your pr!vate part, you won’t have feelings for your husband’s penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands’ pen!s are too small didn’t marry as v!rgins. They must have been promiscous as singles.
4. You will not have a good s*x life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculati0n and your wife won’t enjoy you leading to acute s*xual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy s*x and give your wife maximum s*xual pleasure. A woman enjoys s*x when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating.
Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having s*x altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy s*x to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculati0n, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total v!rginity pays!
5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculati0n, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculati0n. A situation where you get erecti0n for several hours without ejaculation or org@sm. What is the benefit of s*x without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy s*x with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejacu late. How will the woman get pregnant? It’s the reason some women are seemingly “barren” and can’t talk to anybody out of embarrassment.
Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating s*x altogether. You have so much to lose s*xually when you masturb@te. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal s*xual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with s*x IN MARRIAGE!
6. You start having s*x in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouse).
7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.
8. You start getting unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You fantasize more about s*x and start longing for the real act.
9. You get a warped view of the opposite s*x. You see them as sexual objects and start having s*x with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscous.
These and more are the consequences of masturbati0n. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your s*xual urge?
*How do you handle the constant hunger for s*x?
1. Avoid all dirty pictures, p0rnography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful s*xual triggers!
2. Avoid friends who say dirty,lewd and obscene things. Stop all s*xy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.
3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than s*x.
4. Transmute your s*xual energy: Channel your s*xual energy into something great. I had a strong s*x drive in the institution. I simply channelled them into my education making me the best student in my department from the second year. I was very excited and energetic. I burnt the energy on my studies. I also started my ministry and was very committed as my fellowship bible study co-ordinator. If you don’t burn that energy, you will have s*x.
5. Study the word a lot especially Psalm 119. When you are filled with the word, you have no space for the devil and his demons in your heart.
6. Pray and speak in tongues always. It sanctifies you.
7. Make friends with godly people.
8. Avoid p0rnography and romantic movies.